Thursday, September 30, 2010

Hurt

How many of you have been hurt? Hurting from the heart, hurting from grief, hurting from physical pain, emotional pain, hurting from the heartbreak of others, hurting for others. There is so much hurt in the world. All kinds of hurt. Its a simple word. But a huge concept. 

Colossians 3:13 reminds us to "Bear with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive."

People hurt each other. Here in America, we are overcome with gossip and painful feelings towards one another. People talk. People lie. People do bad things to each other. Its just one of those things you cannot seem to get rid of. But we, as Christians, need to remember to get over ourselves, quit gossiping, and quit hurting one another. I have witnessed best friends talking about each other then turning around hanging out with each other as if nothing ever happened in the first place. 

This is all sin. This is not right. This is hurt. This is causing pain.

During Sunday night youth group, we were trying to teach the kids that once you say something negative to one another or towards one another, you simply cannot take it back. Just like how you cannot empty a whole tube of toothpaste and turn around and try to shove it all back in the tube. Its just impossible. Of course you can apologize and ask for forgiveness to whom you spoke about and to God, but you literally cannot take back the hurt. You cannot take back the words you said. People just need to think before they speak.. and that is extremely hard to do. 

I think about all the hurt and pain that goes on within my group of friends and within my family and I have realized that most of the hurt and pain we have experienced has come from gossip, "he said she said," and just simply doing wrong to others. 

Then I think about all the pain and hurt the people in Africa are experiencing. They are not experiencing the same hurt we are. They do not worry about what others think, or what someone is saying about them today, or what this girl did at a party last night and "Oh my gosh can you believe that?!?!" (...well maybe some of them are, but thats besides the point) They are hurting physically and emotionally. Most of the people in Africa are not getting enough food and water to survive. Did you know that every 15 seconds a child in Africa dies from something as preventable as dirty water? Can you just imagine that? I want you to imagine yourself walking miles and miles to a nearby mud lake infested with disease and germs. Now you have to fill up a bucket of water, place it on your head, and walk back to your house..... oh and don't forget its about 90 degrees outside and your head is pounding with this massive bucket. You drink this water, of course this is the only source of water available to you. Within 30 minutes you are throwing up. The water you just drank cannot stay down in your stomach. You are sick, in the hospital, and next thing you know you are dying. 

Now, this is not the case for us over in America. But this is reality over seas. And all we have to do is walk downstairs, turn on the faucet and there you go... water at the tip of our fingertips.. fresh clean clear water within seconds.
So, no, the people half way across the world are not experiencing our hurt we are experiencing. Why are we so consumed with trash talking our best friends and worrying what others do around us and what they are saying about us? There are greater and deadlier issues we can worry about than talking about what Sally Sue wore out last night.

The bible tells us that “a perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends” (Proverbs 16:28). Why do we need to lose close friends over something as preventable as gossip, and why do the Africans need to physically lose each other over something as preventable as dirty water? 

We can make a difference. 

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   With love,
   Catherine


Monday, September 27, 2010

Starting the journey...

My mother convinced me to start blogging about my journey. I guess she wants to follow me when I return to Africa in December. Maybe it is a good idea... I know she'll miss me over Christmas (hehe) So where to start?
I'm new to this so you'll have to bare with me but I guess I'll start off by saying our God is the greatest God. I had the opprotunity to travel half way across the world with The Wesley Foundation at Mississippi State over the summer. We went to Ghana in West Africa and I immediately fell in love. From culture shocks to unconditional love I had for these children, I knew there was not enough time for me to be over there. I had to go back. When I returned to the States in June all I could think about were those kids over in the orphanage. We fell in love with them. Our group worked in a Methodist Orphanage called Rafiki. There were 18 children ages 2-7. Of course there were language barriers (especially for me since I am slow at grasping other languages... and much of everything, but God made it all work out) I am so happy he placed Rafiki on my heart. A day wouldn't go by when I would not think about those kids. What were they doing? Were they playing games? Were they smiling? Were they happy? Were they feeling the love and warmth that Clint, Adam, Derek, and Micah were giving them? (8 of us from Mississippi State went over the summer and 4 of us came back to the States early, 4 stayed all summer). I knew that these kids were alright with Clint, Adam, Derek, and Micah but I guess a selfish side of me popped out and I just really wanted to go back and be with them. After this I realized that I needed to do something, much greater go back.....and SOON! I was so happy when the 8 of us met up again a few weeks and had a reunion dinner at Old Waverly. (well all of us except Micah that is... sorry Micah, but you missed out!) Tim announced that he was working for us to go back in December! What great news that was! There are going to be two trips that we are planning... We will all leave for Ghana December 11th and some will get back to the States December 22nd. The other group will stay through Christmas and return to the States December 30th. I thought and prayed long and hard about this for about two weeks. I realized that when I went over the summer there was just simply not enough time, there was so much to do and so much to be taught that I had to go back for longer next time I would return.
Christmas is a huge deal in my family. My mom is one of seven brothers and sisters and December is the only time our whole family is able to come together during the year. We have a whole week before Christmas where there are many events planned and much to do. Don't get me wrong it is so much fun and I absolutely LOVE my family. But I know these children need me more than my family does. It will be hard being away from my family during the holidays but I need as much time as possible with the children. I think I may even need the kids more than they need me :) hehe.. They teach me what its like to be calm and not worry about what tomorrow will bring. And see, I am a bit of a worrier. I don't know why, but I worry a TON! I also get stressed about the littlest of things and angry over what seems to be nothing. With Gods help (of course) these children taught me there was more to life than being frightful, fearful, worried, and angry. There was never a second while I was there when I was worried, scared, fearful, or angry. Never a second. I was happy. I was so happy just to sit and be with these kids. How could they be so happy and not have half the "things" we have over in America?  It blew my mind. Our lives and houses and apartments are so consumed with "stuff" and we are unhappy. We argue, we gossip, we lie, we are selfish, we are angry, of course we are not perfect by any means but these kids over in Africa don't have half of the "stuff" (not even a quarter) we have. We are so obsessed with having the best of the best and our lives are consumed with "stuff". And we still have bitterness in our lives. How? These kids have next to nothing, but they do have the most important thing- God. And thats what we are continuing to teach them about. I want to be happy. I want to live less and give back more.
Thanks for listening....or reading :)